Penis strokers seem like the most obvious toy, right? Stick your dick in, move everything back and forth, and there you go!
And yes, at the most basic level, this is how you use a masturbator, but it can be better with a few tweaks. Here are a few tips to help you get the most pleasure from your stroker.
Add Lube
Lube is what makes the difference between an “Ow!” and an “Oh yeah!” It reduces friction so whatever is rubbing your junk rubs it the right way. This is especially true for strokers.
In the early days of sex toys . . . . If you didn’t like a rubbery sleeve with a hole at each end, tough luck.
Most strokers should only use water-based lube because the material they’re made of doesn’t usually mix with silicone or oil lubes. (Follow the manufacturer’s suggestions on this - you’ll usually find it on the package.)
You might not need very much, based on how soft your sleeve already is. A squirt or two of lube is often enough to get everything moving in a just-right way.
Pick the Right Style
In the early days of sex toys, your penis had very few options. If you didn’t like a rubbery sleeve with a hole at each end, tough luck. But these days, there are so many styles that you can definitely find exactly what you (and your penis) love most.
Hands-free strokers are a thing now, and you even have options there:
- Motorized sleeves that do the work while you enjoy the sensations
- Sex dolls made to look like butts or torsos that let you simulate penetrative sex without all that wrist-action
Beyond that, you can also choose from lots of different styles of strokers and sleeves:
- Mouths
- Vaginas
- Anuses
- Non-realistic
- Multiple flesh tones
A big part of having a good sex toy experience is actually liking the sex toy you’re using. Taking time to figure out what you enjoy most is part of that.
Add Other Sex Toys
Want to really make your orgasm explode? Add other sex toys to the party. This is even easier when you’re using a motorized penis stroker, too.
While your dick is being taken care of by one toy, you can focus on another one:
- Wear a cock ring to constrict blood flow and help prolong your orgasm.
- Choose a vibrating ring and turn it so the vibrator hits your shaft, testicles, or perineum. (You can thank us later when you get the power of speech back.)
- Insert a butt plug to add extra sensation to another part of your body.
- Wear nipple clamps if you like a bit of pain mixed with your pleasure.
- Use a prostate massager (vibrating or not) and be prepared to see the deity of your choice when you climax. (Again, you can thank us later.)
Mixing up the sensations or adding others can make everything feel more intense. Stimulating multiple erogenous zones tends to make bigger orgasms.
Keep Your Stroker Longer
If you’ve ever bought a stroker, used it once or twice, and then had to throw it out because of a mystery odor or stain, you’re not alone. From bad products to not knowing how to properly take care of a stroker, plenty of sex toys meet their end all too soon.
Once you find the penis stroker that you can’t live without, there’s not too much to do to help it last longer. Try these tips:
Use lube to save your toy. Yes, lube makes you feel good but it also helps prevents tears in the material which can ruin a toy.
Clean your stroker! Once you get your breath back and can walk straight, go wash your stroker. Close-ended toys are hardest to clean but they can be done. Wash with mild soap and water or a sex toy cleaner. Allow to fully air dry before storing.
Use cornstarch or sex toy powder to revive your stroker. If you’ve kept it clean and used lube but it’s not feeling as good as it once did, you can revive it with a soft powder. Don’t use baby powder (talcum powder), though!
Wear a condom to make cleaning your toy easier. Sometimes we just know who we are, and if you know you’re bad about washing a stroker, this is an easy step. Yes, you don’t feel the full sensations (add a sex toy to help out!) but you also won’t have mold growing on your stroker.
Throw out gross strokers. When you buy a new toy, go for a higher-quality option that won’t get moldy, stinky, or gross. Porous materials made with things like TPE feel good because they’re softer. But all it takes is one or two times of not cleaning or drying it well, and it’s gross.
In Conclusion: Give Your Dick The Pleasure It Craves
The right penis stroker, used with the right lube, can make you explode with pleasure - literally and figuratively. But treat it as the investment (in your pleasure, that it is) and take care of it. When you do, you’ll get to play with your sex toy more often and have more mind-blowing pleasure. Which is the entire point.
About Kayla Lords:
I am a freelance sex writer, podcaster, YouTuber, and kink educator. I love talking about sex and sex toys and focus primarily on kinky topics. I’m also a kinky woman in a BDSM relationship who enjoys oversharing on the internet.